When life becomes hectic and energy starts to wane, we often find ourselves with less time for each other—and sometimes even less time for ourselves. However, time and past experiences have taught us profound lessons about ourselves, our needs, our boundaries, and our connections.
I believe love is an investment. While it can emerge spontaneously—wild, intense, and seemingly boundless—love requires careful nurturing to endure. It can be unconditional and eternal, but it will fade without intentional care. This applies to every type of love: between parents and children, partners, friends, and family.
When we offer ourselves—our attention, time, and energy—we create powerful bonds. We cultivate mutual affection and demonstrate the profound significance of our loved ones. Moreover, we invite love to expand, grow, and deepen within our hearts. Love is the most generous investment we can make, and it naturally creates attachment.
I witness this dynamic in my relationships with my children, partner, mother, brother, and friends... The more genuine time I invest, the more authentic connection I receive in return. And not just that, I feel the love grow in my heart just by the pure fact of being together, sharing a moment, a touch, a conversation that is focused and meaningful.
During busy periods, it becomes essential to create intentional moments of one-on-one connection. These don't require grand gestures—even a brief, loving interaction or a moment of physical touch can reconnect us. When I notice my children have been absorbed in their friendships, I purposefully seek opportunities to bond with each of them individually, tailoring my approach to their unique personalities.
I often suggest finding a moment to take them to their favorite shop - not beacuse I love to buy stuff but because I know that the walk there and back will give us opportunity to have conversations we haven't have for days, we will share a giggle, a laugh, a moment of holding hands, or talking about silly things we find on the shelves of a store.
I often watch them play their video games sitting close, asking questions showing them my deep interest in what they love.
We each have a favourite show we watch together.
This is that same principle that applies to my relationship with my husband. We must actively invite each other to pause and prioritize intimate moments—a quiet walk, a shared coffee, or a conversation without interruptions. This is especially crucial when we're enjoying community activities and social interactions.
Returning to each other, truly seeing one another, is a vital effort in cultivating a sense of belonging and deep affection. It's an ongoing practice of love—intentional, deliberate, and profoundly meaningful.
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